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  Bridgette Jones' Diary - review

  by waiting in

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  i luuuuuvvvvved it!.

  rented it the other night, wasn't feeling good, drank some wine - and laughed, and laughed, and laughed, and laughed.. lord, that poor girl lived through some of the same things common to all - particularily women, however.. i had no idea how good it was or i would have seen it sooner!.

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  thinkers wife

  I'll have to rent it! I too searched for Waiting's posts. I hadn't seen you for awhile and was wondering where and how you were!!
  Fell in love with Renee Z. in Jerry McGuire.
  Glad to see you are alive and kicking Waiting!! And still have that great sense of humor. If Waiting says it is good that is good enough for me.
  TW
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  I FOUND OUT WHAT I'VE BECOME...I HATE IT!

  by TheRecordCollector in

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  2. experiences

  as those of you who are aware of debi and i, we've had some serious problems.. today, i found out, "i" was the problem.

  the book "obsessive love" by dr. susan forward, bantam books.

  unfortunatly, this book describes me almost to a tee.

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  RC,
  I don't know anything about you or your background. But one thing I noticed in your post is that you are freely admitting what you are. IMO, that is the first and biggest step to improving. Actually that is half the battle.
  I would suggest that if you would really like to have friends reach out. Invite a co-worker to go somewhere with you! Even if it is to go to flea markets. I for one love going flea marketing. Maybe you could find someone who loves it too!
  Just take one day at a time. If co-dependency is the issue, I suggest reading "Co-Dependent No More". Don't know the author as I have leant it out. I was in a co-dependent relationship and it helped me tremendously. As now I am no longer in that relationship and when I found a new one things were completely different! Try it. And remember one day at a time.
  All human beings are intrinsically valuable. Look for your good points and build on them. You have them, I know you do!
  Good Luck!!
  TW
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  So Will This Be Your First Christmas?

  by Englishman in

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  2. friends

  funny how the prospect of christmas takes me back to my pre-dub days as a 7 year old.

  christmas eve was spent making my present request list, duly guided by both my parents as to what to ask for.

  once completed, the coal fire was stoked up and the precious list was allowed to be carried up the chimney where waiting elves promptly delivered my requests to santa.

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  This is Thinker and my second Christmas. We were so excited last year that we opened our presents a week early. I didn't decorate. This year I am thinking about decorating some. I've looked at trees (artificial) but don't think we will go there yet. I think we will just get a really good smelling wreath and decorate that!
  I did carve my first pumpkin this year. It is wayyyyyyy cool. And with a candle in it is really scary.
  Thinker says, that living with me is like doing everything for the first time. We just have fun!!!
  Bought a rug for our front porch yesterday that says "Proud Americans live here". To go with the paper flag I hung on the door in September.
  I must say the quality of my life has improved dramatically!!!
  TW
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  Do You Possess The "flag" In Your Life?

  by silentlambs in

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  i recently watched a movie about a struggle for survival.

  the story was set in a military prison where a recently incarcerated general led an uprising against a cruel and murderous colonel who happened to be the warden of the prison.

  the general on newly arriving wanted nothing to do with dissidents saying he had fought all the wars he wanted to.

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  thinkers wife

  SL,
  

  You have to break free of the programming, seize the real truth that you are what you think. What you think of yourself, your family and how you interact with others will show whether you possess in your character the honor and integrity WT has tried to destroy. If you feel at loss with this, do what ever it takes to get it back, use therapy, medication, or perhaps a little patience and time to heal. In the end, to live your life with honor and integrity will make you proud of who you are and of great value to those that are part of your life

  
  All things the Society discourages, and things I chose to do anyway. And I am so glad I did. As usual SL you are dead on. Thank you for sharing this for those who are at the beginning of their journey.
  TW
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  How Long???

  by Xena in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i have been drifting for about 1 1/2 years now and was hoping that in a year or two i would have distanced myself enough from the org.

  that i can actually start living my life exactly the way i want to...aka celebrating the holidays by putting lights on the house, not having to tell my daughter not to say anything about going trick or treating, getting birthday presents or going to cheerleader camp.

  but i read some posts in the disfellowhiping thread started by somebody where people have been inactive for 3 years and are still disfellowhiped!

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  Xena,
  So very sad isn't it. I still get angry sometimes when I feel as if I have been put in a position once again, where they are totally in control, and I have no choices. i.e. Recently an active witness out in field service was making very slanderous and terrible accusations about my personal life to a young woman that I studied with years ago who never got baptized and couldn't be less interested in being involved with the religion.
  I da'ed myself in June of 2000. I felt the noose tightening around my neck because I was living with Thinker although maintaining my apartment, apparently some well meaning witnesses noticed things were disappearing from my apartment and the rumors were spreading fast that I had moved. I had already distanced myself from the org. for about a year prior to this but still had some contact. I knew I no long wanted to be a JW but had not taken official action because of my family and few friends. Needless to say, the decision to da myself was a difficult one and very emotionally stressful. I have no children so my circumstances are somewhat different. But in the year or so that has ensued surprisingly, my parents would talk to me if I called. But after months of regularly calling them, my mom made it clear that my life was of no interest to her. For me that was the last straw. I haven't spoken to them since early July. To be honest I haven't even wanted to. Though I love them deeply I see no point in continuing to have a "fake" relationship.
  As the months go by I believe your choices will become more clear to you. And you will work your way through all the feelings and ingrained attitudes, and then you will have a better idea of how YOU feel and what WORKS for you and yours.
  Best of luck, it is a terrible dilemma at best.
  TW
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  jwmatch.com

  by obiefernandez in

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  2. friends

  i am surprised that there hasn't been a discussion here (not that i can find anyway) about jwmatch.com.

  not only are they self-proclaimed, "the world's largest witnesses online community!

  " (sound familiar?

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  thinkers wife

  Wild. I thought active witnesses weren't supposed to be frequenting the internet. Personally I find it very hypocritical. Just one more thing on the list. Doubly so, because it seems to go against all the rules about dating and courtship.
  TW
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  Hey baby, what's your sign?

  by Bridgette in

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  okay, it's a hobbie of mine: astrology and people profiling.

  now, i have a hypothesis i want to gather correlational data on.

  disclaimer: it's only for fun, nathan natas, larc, alanf--all you logical thinkers out there!

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  thinkers wife

  That is cool Tatiana!!
  Somebody,
  Don't worry too much about sign compatibility! Thinker is Capricorn and Sags and Caps aren't supposed to work out at all!! Proud to say we have been together for a year and a half and never had words or even a raised voice. Suit each other to a tee.
  I have some of the Sag traits but not all. Same with him. Although I do believe the sign you are born under has some effect on your personality!
  TW
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  Hey baby, what's your sign?

  by Bridgette in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  okay, it's a hobbie of mine: astrology and people profiling.

  now, i have a hypothesis i want to gather correlational data on.

  disclaimer: it's only for fun, nathan natas, larc, alanf--all you logical thinkers out there!

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  thinkers wife

  I am a Sag. November 26, 1959. Tatiana I have red hair too!!!!! And we share a birthday, how cool is that!!!
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  jwmatch.com

  by obiefernandez in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  i am surprised that there hasn't been a discussion here (not that i can find anyway) about jwmatch.com.

  not only are they self-proclaimed, "the world's largest witnesses online community!

  " (sound familiar?

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  UNBELIEVABLE!! Didn't believe it til' I saw it with my own eyes. And my parents had a fit when they found out I met Thinker online! They never cease to amaze me.
  TW
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  NEWS: I am publicly reproved over UN situation.

  by badwillie in

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  2. friends

  my wife and i met with 3 elders for a "judicial hearing".. our crime: simply put, was talking.

  i showed a friend the un website where the wts was listed as an ngo which then led to a 2 hour discussion of various doubts that we both have had.

  my wife also showed a friend the un thing but also discussed with her a first hand account of a pedophile cover-up that we knew about in our former congregation.

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  thinkers wife

  Willie,
  I knew when this whole UN thing was uncovered that it was huge. Whatever small glimmer of rightness on their part that I was retaining was completely shattered at the point.
  What amazes me is that you were showing your friends something public with the WT endorsement right up there for all to see.
  They have accomplished two things, IMO, by the way they handled your wife and you. In their eyes they have shut you up and suffienctly chastised you. And by so doing when the announcement is made tonight they have blackened your name and reputation to the point where everyone in the congregation will view everthing you do and say as suspect. Two birds killed with one fell swoop.
  I am sad that this had to happen. But anyone who has the audacity to question anything is wide open for this kind of unmerciful unjust treatment.
  My heart goes out to both of you! But as has been stated many times in the previous posts, it is an eye opener and frees the two of you to move on.
  Good luck to you both.
  TW